ENERGY

Blocked Feminine Energy

Signs of Blocked Feminine Energy: 13 Ways We Suffer

Whenever we find signs of blocked feminine energy, we know that a relationship and both people in it suffer. A natural flow of feminine energy must exist in any healthy happy romantic relationship, in any relationship for that matter. Connection falls in the realm of feminine energy and therefore must exist for us to feel and sustain love.

Interestingly, as we explore the signs of blocked feminine energy, we will see how this blocked energy negatively impacts an individual as well as how it blocks love, connection, and intimacy in a relationship.

As we begin exploring we must note that every single person, every human being, naturally embodies some level of feminine energy as well as some level of masculine energy. Most but not all people hold either feminine or masculine energy more predominantly, which means the opposite energy will be secondarily in support of the primary energy.

Let’s say that another way; everyone has masculine and feminine energy. Most people have either more masculine or more feminine energy. We’ll call this the primary energy. Often this primary energy correlates to gender but it doesn’t always. Our secondary, opposite energy will support the primary energy. So, masculine supports feminine and feminine supports masculine.

Then, whether male or female, predominantly masculine or feminine, it is always our feminine energy that governs the connection and unity that exists in a relationship. Therefore, blocked feminine energy can happen in any person and any relationship.

With that being said, the signs of blocked feminine energy can initially be easiest to recognize in a woman, or more feminine being, who normally and naturally embodies more feminine energy than masculine energy.

Signs of blocked feminine energy in a woman

Again, as we’ve said everyone embodies and carries feminine energy and therefore all the signs of blocked feminine energy in a woman that we explore here can show up in any person. The signs will of course look slightly different in a man, or predominantly masculine being, yet you’ll surely still recognize them.

Let’s dive into the most common signs of blocked feminine energy in women (and men)…

Rigidity. Feminine energy has a fluidity and flexibility to it so whenever feminine energy is blocked, we become more rigid, overly structured, and even too meticulous. Blocked feminine energy means that we no longer rest in the natural cycles and rhythms of life.
Unfeeling. Simply explained, feminine energy is the emotional feeling energy in all of us. If we are not feeling, our feminine is definitely blocked. For those who would do anything not to feel, they may have not only blocked their feminine energy but even barricaded it.
Stuck. One of the signs of blocked feminine energy that may surprise many people is feeling stuck in life. We actually feel stuck in life because our emotions are stuck inside. In other words, whenever we feel stuck, we know our feminine feeling energy is stuck. Once we allow our feelings to flow, we’ll find the clarity we seek.
Insensitive. When we allow feminine energy to flow, we become sensitive to people, situations, and experiences around us. For some that sensitivity may feel vulnerable or possibly too tender. This resistance will cause women and men to build blocks to their feminine energy.
Controlling. Feminine energy carries the ability to surrender, to let go of control, and to go with the flow. If we have trouble going with the flow and, in turn, attempt to control ourselves and our world, this definitely offers us a sign of blocked feminine energy.
Intolerant. Our feminine side is our accepting and embracing side. Whenever we find resistance to feminine energy, our ability to accept ourselves and each other as we are decreases. We’ll find ourselves intolerant of even some of our most normal and natural human imperfect expressions.
Dry. When feminine energy flows within us we will experience a more juicy aliveness in life. When life becomes dry and boring, when life lacks sensual pleasure, we can bet it is a sign that our feminine energy is blocked. Similarly, when we lose our creativity, or believe we never had it, our feminine energy is stifled.
Self-centered. The feminine by nature tends to the wellbeing of others. When our feminine and masculine energy express in more complementary ways, our feminine aspect will propel us to care for others. In balance, we will not lose ourselves or experience self abandonment in our care for others.
Lonewolf energy. Feminine energy has its roots in connection. The feminine pole in the masculine feminine dynamic stands for unity while the masculine pole stands for sovereignty. When we move into a “lonewolf” approach to life our feminine energy is simply not flowing.
“Get shit done” attitude. Feminine energy is our “being” energy while masculine energy is our “doing” energy. Anyone, especially anyone with predominant feminine energy, who identifies as a “get shit done” girl or person, can again bet that feminine energy isn’t fully flowing.
Inability to relax. Similarly, as we said, feminine energy is about being over doing. It is the feminine aspect of ourselves that lets us relax and enjoy the pleasures of life. We must be in feminine energy in order to rest, restore, and revitalize. When we struggle with these natural needs of living, we want to pay attention to cultivating our feminine energy flow.
Withdrawing or isolating. The feminine in all of us wants to connect. If we consistently pull away, withdraw, isolate or become avoidant this clearly indicates a need for more feminine energy flow.
Inability to receive. If we desire to receive – a compliment, support, love or anything in between, our feminine aspect must be alive and well. The masculine gives and the feminine receives. Being a better giver than receiver can be a sign of blocked feminine energy.
Over-thinking. Again similarly, the masculine thinks while the feminine feels. In practice, the masculine wants to use logic and tries to figure out the best choice. The feminine in contrast, relies heavily on intuition – an inner knowing or a gut feeling – to make decisions and inspire action. If we can’t sense our intuition, whether male or female, we again will want to cultivate the flow of feminine energy within.

These indicators that feminine energy has been blocked begin to shift as a woman, or anyone, begins to allow themselves to feel, flow, and receive. When each of us can embody a healthy level of feminine energy our relationships, particularly our intimate one, will find themselves stronger.

Signs of blocked feminine energy in a relationship

Knowing that deep and healthy loving relationships depend on the presence of feminine energy, let’s consider the signs of blocked feminine energy in a relationship. The presence of these signs tend to indicate that both people in the relationship will want to give some time and attention to releasing the barriers to feminine energy. As they do, their relationship will certainly deepen.

Signs of blocked feminine energy in a relationship include:

Defensiveness. The feminine has the capacity to stay consciously open even in the face of difficulty or embarrassment. When walls of protection go up in a relationship and both partners start to take a defended posture against the other, they need more feminine energy flow.
Righteousness. When we lack the ability to hear another person’s perspective, when we believe that, regardless of what another person says or feels, that our way is right, we block connection in the partnership. This is a sign of blocked feminine energy in the relationship.
Consistent conflict. Once again, the feminine part of ourselves seeks unity. Building on what we said above about righteousness, if we’d rather be right than be in relationship then we breed and perpetuate separation, distance, and conflict over the feminine pole of connection. While all healthy relationships have conflict, relationships with a good balance of feminine energy will reunite more easily and separate over conflict less frequently.
Too much independence. Masculine energy expresses as independence and sovereignty while feminine energy expresses as unity and connection. Relationships that have signs of blocked feminine energy will have too much independence and too little inter-dependence.
Needs not being met. In relationships that lean too heavily on the masculine, both partners will find it difficult to feel that their needs are truly being met. To have our needs met, we must be able to both ask for what we need, and to receive another’s contribution to us. Both of these come from a good flow of feminine energy in the relationship.
Dominating (or power over) energy. In the face of unconscious power dynamics in a relationship, one partner can attempt to dominate or control what happens in the partnership. This prohibits necessary cooperation, a feminine quality, that must exist for happy and healthy romantic connections.
Competition. The masculine competes and the feminine collaborates. When a romantic relationship has a significant amount of competition or one-upmanship, it’s a sure sign it needs more feminine energy.
Loneliness. As we’ve said several times now, feminine energy is all about connection. When we feel lonely, we have another sure sign of blocked feminine energy. In this case, the distance we feel may be a real indicator that we need to cultivate more meaningful opportunities for connection in our lives. Alternatively, those connections may actually exist but we can’t feel them. Either way, we need to unblock our feminine energy.
Lack of compassion. In the heart of the feminine lies compassion – compassion for ourselves and compassion for others. Being human isn’t easy all the time. Yet so many of us are conditioned to be hard on ourselves which typically makes us simultaneously overly critical of others.
Self-centeredness. The conscious healthy feminine cares for others, without abandoning herself. When that feminine energy gets blocked we often can’t see anyone but ourselves. This can, at its worst, lean so far in the direction of masculine energy that one becomes overly self absorbed.
Lack of intimacy. Healthy, happy, and sustainably passionate relationships thrive on the experience of intimacy – not just physical intimacy but also emotional intimacy. The feminine governs this emotional intimacy and requires a genuine capacity for vulnerability. When we block feminine energy, we block both vulnerability and intimacy.
Avoidance. When it comes to attachment styles, by definition an avoidant attachment style person tends to avoid intimacy and closeness. In other words, those who feel avoidant may actually have a mistrust of feminine energy and therefore block its inherent relationality.
Lack of nurturance. The feminine aspect of each of us is the part of us that tends to another with kindness and care. It is the part of us that gets soft and gentle especially when someone is feeling scared or isn’t feeling well. None of us are strong all the time and a relationship that has blocked feminine energy will not nurture either partner in the ways we all truly need.

As we just mentioned with nurturance, we all need to feel embraced, unconditionally accepted, and loved on a regular basis. We all need the ability to let down our guard and rest. Every one of us needs the capacity to receive the love and generosity of another. Whether we’re predominantly masculine or feminine by nature, to feel related, to experience connection, we must pay attention to any signs of blocked feminine energy within ourselves and in our relationships.

When the feminine gets blocked, love gets blocked. With that, relationships struggle.

Harmonizing the energies in you and your relationship

Whenever we find the presence of blocked feminine energy, we tend to simultaneously find an overreliance on masculine energy. Similarly, when we find blocked masculine energy we will usually also find an over appreciation and over use of feminine energy. Over and under using either energy will never make us healthy or happy. A lack of, or overabundance of, either energy will also of course make any relationship, and especially romantic relationships, much less stable and therefore more challenging.

As we said in the beginning, we all have masculine and feminine energy within us and most of us have a predominance of one or the other. In order to have relationships and life flow with ease, in order to feel truly vibrant, we need to understand the authentic and natural levels of masculine and feminine energy within our own constitution. Then, as we enter into romantic connections, we also want to understand the natural expressions of these two energies within our partners.

Typically, the opposite energies attract and create a polarity of yin and yang in love. That means a more predominant feminine person will attract a more predominant masculine person. That allows the two energies to first support and complement each other within each partner. Then this inner harmony of masculine and feminine energy supports a harmony between the two in the relationship.

Again we need both energies in order to thrive individually and in relationships. As we see signs of blocked feminine energy or blocked masculine energy, we want to pay attention to why our energies are out of balance. In some cases of blocked feminine energy, the masculine energy may be dominating and the feminine has no chance to come out and play so to speak. In other cases, a lack of healthy boundaries and support by the masculine may mean it doesn’t feel safe for the feminine to express herself.

Finding natural and healthy expressions of masculine and feminine energy can take a bit of time, but with the help of guides combined with practice in conscious communities of masculine and feminine beings, authentic alignment can happen quite quickly and easily.

“Every strong relationship depends on the flow of feminine energy within, between, and beyond you.” ~ Joanna Shakti

As we close our exploration of the signs of blocked feminine energy, the simplest and most straightforward thing we could say is this…

If your relationship – past or present – has struggled to maintain love, connection, kindness, and intimacy, you can bet that at least one of you, and very likely both of you, have blocks to your own feminine energy.

It’s critical that you work to remove these barriers to love both individually, and as a couple, if you’re currently partnered. If you’re single, you are deeply encouraged to reconnect with and allow your feminine energy to flow again.

Every strong relationship depends on the flow of feminine energy within, between, and beyond you.